Wednesday, August 9, 2017

How to be yourself

"Whenever you choose to pull back, say less, or restrain your magnificence to survive in a relationship, this spells trouble. The next opportunity you have to spend time with this person, ask yourself: Will I have to shrink to make this work, or is this a situation where I can grow?" ~Marc Chernoff

Ginko tree at Cranbrook Gardens / Cindy La Ferle

Today's quote got me thinking about being authentic in our relationships. Of course, there's a huge difference between being brutally honest and expressing our truth with tact and diplomacy. 

But how often do we refrain from saying what we really think in order to keep the peace -- or to ensure that others will like us? How often do we give in to those who take vicious delight in challenging us? How often do we underplay our own accomplishments to keep from overshadowing someone else? How often do we stifle our opinions or stoop to make other people feel taller? 

How much time do we spend with people who talk nonstop about themselves and rarely express interest in us?

And why would we give others permission to make us feel less than who we are?

As Chernoff's quote suggests, there's something "off" in a relationship that makes us feel judged or restrained. We're wise to seek out the company of people who are so comfortable in their own skin that they make us feel equally comfortable in ours. ~CL

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