Sunday, September 30, 2018

Becoming better

"I know that all the healing, civility, and sanity begins with me. It begins with my willingness to check under the hood, to face my demons, and to do the healing work necessary to make me a better human being so that I care more about the welfare of other human beings than I do about being right or rich or revered." ~Cheryl Richardson


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Saturday, September 29, 2018

Pets

"Animals have come to mean so much in our lives. We live in a fragmented and disconnected culture. What's one thing we have that we can depend on? A dog or a cat loving us unconditionally, every day, very faithfully." ~John Katz, American journalist

The Divine Ms. Coco Bean / Cindy La Ferle

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Friday, September 28, 2018

Integrity

"If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters." ~Harvey Mackay


  Looking for meaning and what matters / Cindy La Ferle


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Thursday, September 27, 2018

Friendship and kindness

“We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over; so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one which makes the heart run over.” ~Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451


Brys Estate, Old Mission Peninsula / Cindy La Ferle

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Wednesday, September 26, 2018

The truth

"The truth is rarely pure and never simple." 
~Oscar Wilde


Friendship Woods trail, Madison Heights / Cindy La Ferle

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Tuesday, September 25, 2018

Getting messy, making a splash

"We can't be creative if we refuse to be confused."
~Margaret Wheatley

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Monday, September 24, 2018

Time to figure it out

“It's not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What's hard is figuring out what you're willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.”  ~Shauna Niequist


Coffee break / Cindy La Ferle
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Saturday, September 22, 2018

Women's stories

"If she got really quiet and listened, new parts of her wanted to speak."
~SARK, author and artist

The book that inspired the workshop / Cindy La Ferle

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Among the things that make me happy: helping other women find their voices and hearing their stories.  

That's why I'm excited about my upcoming workshop, "Your Story, Your Power," which is based on the book, Your Story Is Your Power: Free Your Feminine Voice, by Elle Luna and Susie Herrick. The free, one-night workshop will be held at the Royal Oak Public Library on Monday, September 24 at 7pm.  

I discovered this guide several months ago -- and was immediately struck by its timeliness. The authors invite women of all ages to take a closer look at their family history as well as the cultural myths and personal experiences that have inspired, defined, changed, or even limited their life choices. 

"If we can truly understand the stories that made us the women we are, including the motivations behind our actions and thoughts, we can take charge of how our future unfolds," the authors write.

In this informal class, we'll identify and explore our own key stories. No writing experience is necessary -- but please bring your favorite notebook or journal. The workshop is free to the public but space is limited and advance registration is required. For additional details and to register for the class, please visit www.ropl.org

Friday, September 21, 2018

Finding happy places

"It's a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy."
~Lucille Ball

Bayside Gallery, Suttons Bay/ Cindy La Ferle

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Thursday, September 20, 2018

Expanding our perspective

"Every person takes the limits of their own field of vision for the limits of the world." ~ Arthur Schopenhauer



Lake Michigan / Cindy La Ferle

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Wednesday, September 19, 2018

The carnival of life

"We bump up against many people in this carnival we call life. Sometimes we find people whom we learn to love, and sometimes we lose them in the bouncy castle." ~Patti Digh, Your Daily Rock

Clawson Park Carnival / Cindy La Ferle

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Once in a while, my husband and I reminisce about former classmates, favorite teachers, and childhood neighbors. We retell crazy stories about coworkers from jobs we've held in the distant past (like the one about the guy who photocopied his bare bottom on the Xerox machine). Over the decades, we've lost touch with most of these people, though we still appreciate the memories they made. 

Today, social media sites make it possible to keep track of hundreds of folks who've populated our past. But as psychologists and friendship experts agree, it would be logistically impossible to maintain a three-dimensional relationship with everyone we've known, learned from, or loved in different phases of our lives. We relocate, graduate, change jobs. Our lives grow in opposite directions. 

In his now-famous study of human relationships, sociologist and author Robin Dunbar concluded that most people can reasonably handle a casual level of friendship with about 150 acquaintances -- 50 of whom they know well enough to invite to their homes for a dinner party. As for close (or "best") friends, Dunbar says that most people can only maintain five of these intimate friendships at once. Close friends are the reliable ones with whom we can share our secrets as well as our successes -- and are consistently there for us in times of crisis. 

Throughout our lives, these numbers stay the same -- but the friendships typically change.

In the September issue of Family Circle, I read a thoughtful back-to-school essay about the importance of getting to know the parents at your kids' school -- especially the ones whose kids hang out with your kids. The author of the essay called the process "assembling your village." Speaking from her experience, she pointed out that this "village" will inevitably change once your kids are out of school and you're no longer coaching ball games or organizing bake sales. Unless you share other interests with the parents in the village -- something other than your kids -- you'll probably drift apart as the kids grow up.

All said and done, proximity and circumstance impact all of our relationships. Your college roomies now live in different states, and it's not so easy to meet them for drinks at the end of the day. It's just as likely that the allies you made in your first job after graduation have also moved on.

Of course, when longtime friends stand together on a strong foundation of common values and interests -- and can maintain a deep emotional connection -- time and distance won't keep us from staying in touch. 

The past is always fun to revisit, but it takes more than shared history to hold our relationships together. Drifting apart doesn't mean we don't care anymore, or that memories don't matter. It's a natural part of living and growing.  ~Cindy La Ferle

Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Seeing the good

"It’s so easy to talk about what doesn’t work and how to fix it. Or about the challenges we face and the fears we’re trying to overcome. We spend so much of our lives focused on fixing and conquering and getting through. But today I celebrate what’s good and right and okay with the world." ~Cheryl Richardson


Back from the market / Cindy La Ferle

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Monday, September 17, 2018

Your own kind of beauty

"I hope someday you will see that this is all life wants: For you to be your own kind of beautiful, and not the kind that makes you forget who you are." ~Brian Andreas


Remy / Cindy La Ferle

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Saturday, September 15, 2018

Pleasure

"The essence of pure pleasure is spontaneity." 
~Germaine Greer

Brys Estate Vineyard & Winery on Old Mission Peninsula / Cindy La Ferle

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Friday, September 14, 2018

Paying attention


"The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers." ~Thich Nhat Hanh


At Cherry Republic, Glen Arbor / Cindy La Ferle

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Thursday, September 13, 2018

Mothers

"There's a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother's story, because hers is where yours begin.” ~Mitch Albom, One More Day


Remembering my mom on the anniversary of her passing / Cindy La Ferle

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September is a bittersweet month -- a month of longer shadows, golden light, shorter evenings, and rich, poignant sunsets. It's the month when cottages are closed for the summer, school resumes, sweaters are pulled from storage, and autumn officially begins. In a way that only September can do, it feels like both a beginning and an ending.

September is the month of my mother's birthday, and today, September 13, is the anniversary of her passing. As I post this, I happen to be in the same place where I learned of her death four years ago, so I've been in a quiet, reflective mood most of the day. 

But rather than revisit painful feelings of grief and loss, I focused instead on savoring the beauty of my mother's month -- just as she would have wanted. This afternoon, I drove to downtown St. Joseph, where I bought two new novels and a fall jacket, admiring the fall harvest displays in shop windows along the way -- and feeling every inch my mother's daughter. ~Cindy La Ferle

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Loving what you already have

"Never be so focused on what you're looking for that you overlook the thing you actually find." ~Ann Patchett


In Susan's garden / Cindy La Ferle

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Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Abundance for all

"People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. They believe that if someone else has it, there must be less for them. The more we develop an abundance mentality, the more we are happy for the success, well-being, and good fortune of other people." ~Stephen R. Covey

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Monday, September 10, 2018

Taking time to appreciate

"All too often, we take for granted the very things 
that most deserve our gratitude. " 
~Cynthia Ozick


Tandem Ciders, Suttons Bay / Cindy La Ferle

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Saturday, September 8, 2018

Caring for yourself

"You won’t always be a priority to others, 
and that’s why you need to be a priority to yourself.  
Learn to respect yourself, take care of yourself, 
and become your own support system.  
Your needs matter.  Start meeting them.  
Make your priorities a top priority." 
~Marc & Angel Hack Life 


Cindy La Ferle

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Friday, September 7, 2018

Crossing bridges

"The hardest thing in life to learn is 
which bridge to cross and which to burn."
~ David Russell, Scottish musician

Cranbrook Gardens / Cindy La Ferle

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Thursday, September 6, 2018

Rewriting our stories

"The only way to change negative thought patterns -- the stories we've told ourselves over and over -- is to tell ourselves a different story, and to do it as many times as we heard the first story." ~Allison Fallon 


Old stories / Cindy La Ferle

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Are you still telling the same old life stories? Are you feeling stuck in the past, or defined by the "roles" assigned in your family? Do you still believe in the cultural fairy tales that don't reflect the woman you've become -- or want to be?  

I'm excited about my new writing and personal growth workshop, "Your Story, Your Power," based on the book, Your Story Is Your Power: Free Your Feminine Voice, by Elle Luna and Susie Herrick. The workshop will be held at the Royal Oak Public Library on Monday, September 24.  

In this one-night class, we'll explore the cultural and family myths that overshadow our personal growth or keep us from living by our own lights. Please note that this class is for women only; no writing experience is necessary. For additional details and to register for the class, please visit the ROPL Web site: www.ropl.org

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Reciprocity

"There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity." ~Nathaniel Branden, American psychologist

Take your pick / Cindy La Ferle

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Tuesday, September 4, 2018

The essential key

“The key to healthy communication is having a willingness 
to lay aside our defensive tendencies and 
accept responsibility for our part of the relationship.”  

~ Asa Don Brown, Interpersonal Skills in the Workplace


  Cindy La Ferle
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Monday, September 3, 2018

Late summer blooms

"A bit of fragrance clings to the hand that gives a rose." 
~Chinese proverb

Summer's last rose / Cindy La Ferle

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Saturday, September 1, 2018

Welcoming September

“That old September feeling, left over from school days, of summer passing, vacation nearly done, obligations gathering, books and football in the air.... Another fall, another turned page. There was something of jubilee in that annual autumnal beginning, as if last year's mistakes had been wiped clean by summer.”  ~Wallace Stegner, Angle of Repose


Heritage Trail, Sleeping Bear National Lakeshore / Cindy La Ferle

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