Cindy La Ferle
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When persistence doesn't pay off
No matter what you say or do, you’ll never win these people over. Even when you’re as sweet as key lime pie, they’ll refuse to sit at the table of your friendship.
“The energy I put out to these women was merely absorbed as if it had disappeared into a black hole and none came back to me.” ~Sue Patton Thoele
As Thoele suggests: If you find yourself feeling snubbed or taken for granted, or if you're always throwing parties but not getting invited back, you’ve probably stumbled into “Black Hole Territory.” It’s best to trust your intuition and either loosen your grip on the relationship or bow out.
Even if you're the nicest person in town, not everyone you meet will be a good match for friendship. Not everyone will uphold your political beliefs or religious convictions -- or share your interest in books, sports, movies, fine restaurants, or fashion. You're bound to meet people who dislike you, your kids, and even your carrot cake recipe. As long as you remain civil, you’re entitled to reciprocate the feeling. – Cindy La Ferle
Parts of this essay appear in slightly different form in my book, Writing Home. For more information, click here.